Hi, I hope you had a wonderful Christmas and are enjoying the holiday season in general? Today is boxing day and drumroll MY BIRTHDAY! Just like the past 2 years, I am sharing another reflective post, you can see last year’s post HERE. 2019 has been “my year of change.” There are so many things that changed for me this year in my personal life and in business. This year a lot of things on my vision board came to life and I experienced so many unexpected blessings (hitting and exceeding my business goals was one) and for that, I am so thankful to God but the year didn’t come without challenges. There were some days I literally couldn’t get out of bed (because it hurt that much) and some days were the bad decisions from the previous days plagued me nonstop. I won’t make this a super long post but keep reading to see the 5 standout lessons from 2019.
Love thy self
Not sure why it took me this long to realize this but I have been doing a bad job when it comes to self-love. This is not a confidence issue but when it comes to self-love I realize I don’t say the words I freely gift others daily. I am not pouring into myself and giving myself grace, all the things I do for others. I have been so hard on myself! I don’t wake up daily telling myself I am amazing, I am beautiful, I am intelligent, I am brave, I am strong, etc and truly mean it. I used to think that loving myself deeply and truly came naturally but the truth is it doesn’t. It takes work and time and it varies for everyone. Don’t be like me, be kind to yourself, give yourself grace and most importantly speak kindly to yourself always.
Own your mess
I am flawed, I am imperfect, I make mistakes, I stumble, the list goes on but this year instead of avoiding and “just praying them all away”; this year has been one of me trying to figure out “why I am this way” If that makes sense to you. I have had talks with my spouse about seeing someone about some issues. My challenge to you is instead of sweeping stuff under the rug, why not truly deal and seek help if needed?
Not everyone wants to hear the truth
The truth hurts! I know cliche right? but hey this year I have learned that some people just don’t want to hear the truth and while I am mostly blunt AF, I am learning to hold my tongue (rolls eyes lol) and meet people where they are. No one is perfect and I don’t have all the answers (like anyone does) so I am learning to still give others grace.
Stop living in survival mode
First and always my mission has always been to do everything humanly possible to protect myself from getting hurt and following my instincts (which is amazing and has saved me from so much) and some. This has always kept this at bay but this year I allowed myself to just feel a little bit more and be a lot more vulnerable but that part from earlier when I mentioned being unable to get out of bed, yeah..
Everything will be okay
I used to put this time pressure on myself forgetting that I don’t have all the answers and I don’t control when/how the things I wished for become my reality. I am learning to enjoy the changes that are happening and embracing it even when it is scary. Masterpiece takes time, so give yourself time cos that’s what I am doing.