Reflecting on the last year

Hi,

I hope you had a wonderful Christmas celebration? Today is boxing day and my birthday and I thought I would start the day by sharing a personal blog post with you. To sum up 2017 in one word, I would say it has been my most “teachable” year yet. I did a lot of growing up in 2017. I have learned so much and experienced a whirlwind of changes; but all for the better. Here are seven things I have embraced and that I am carrying with me into the new year.

Validation is for parking

I like to think of myself as someone who doesn’t care much about what people thought about me but this year I realized I did care about what people I personally know aka friends, acquaintances, etc. thought. It bothered me what my friends thought about me and this year I had to learn to let go of that. While it would be great if their thoughts aligned with mine, if they wished the same things I wished for myselfI have learned to realize that what God thought about me and what I thought about myself is what should bother me.

It‘s okay for friendships to change

I would be lying if I said this wasn’t tough for me to acceptheck I am still trying to process some changing relationships but I have decided to no longer look back. I have opened myself to new relationships and made amazing connections with people I least expected and I am now okay with ones that have fizzled this year. Embrace the new and let go of what doesn’t serve any purpose.

Get rid of Users

I seem to always find myself in positions where I end up being used over and over again and I ask myself why I keep doing this to myself, lol. I have a heart of gold (*inserts a lil self-love); it’s just the way I am wired but I made a promise to myself recently to get rid of people who only take from me. It’s that simple.

Unfortunately my Asos dress and Sophia Webster shoes are both sold out because they went on sale. My dress might get restocked soon, so check back. I splurged on my shoes as a birthday gift for myself. They were half priced (marked down to $300.)

 

My earrings are by Misayo House and sunglasses an old purchase from Quay Australia.

Mind my own business

I am not the nosy type but this year I realized more than ever that I was so focused on what “other people were doing.” You know I felt it was part of the norm. This primarily applied to people in my line of business, blogging. I spent so much valuable time counting other people’s blessings instead of focusing on my goals and counting my blessings. Don’t be like me; it’s a waste of time.

Know my worth and add a little extra

This especially applied to me in business, I had to learn the hard way in some instances but boy I learnt a lot! I undervalued myself a lot and people took advantage lol. I have since learned  to not be afraid to walk away from opportunities that I feel don’t serve me and demand more even when it sounds ridiculous. The worst that can happen is a NO and honestly who says hearing a NO is such a bad thing? It’s all part of the growth process. Quick exampleI declined the initial offer from a brand who ended up coming back to pay me six times their initial offer after I sent my counter offer. 

Listen to advice but let God be my compass

This year I can boldly say I have experienced God in a different way. When the bible says, “You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart” Jeremiah 29:13. It sums up my spiritual journey this year. I decided to make a conscious effort to grow spiritually this year. Read books, “Battleship of the Mind” by Joyce Meyer was my favorite this year. That book truly has made a lasting impact in my life. Drawing closer to God has highlighted a lot of my flaws which I am actively working on. I know it is a daily process, and I am embracing it. While I seek counsel from the amazing people in my life, I have learned  more than ever to let God direct my decisions both in the little things and big things.

 

Take a slice of humble pie daily

This right here is my mantra! I won’t deny the fact that I do get carried away sometimes, but something always happens that brings me right down to earth, lol. I have decided not to allow the praises, approvals, the wins get into my head cos I haven’t done much, let’s face it lol! I have so much more that I have to give and want to share and so help me God I‘ll fulfill everyone of them according to God‘s purpose for my life. I learned to celebrate my wins and move on and not get distracted from reaching my next win. 

Thank you for reading this & I thank you for being a part of my journey. This introvert who spent most of her twenties confused and didn’t have the courage to take a bold step doing what came naturally to her till she was 33 thanks you! Enjoy the rest of your day!

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19 Comments

  1. Titi
    December 26, 2017 / 4:59 pm

    I love love this post! Your outfit is amazing! Those shoes! The earrings, I love it all😍😍😍 Also awesome job sharing your lessons! I learned from it😙 Happy birthday again!

  2. December 26, 2017 / 5:13 pm

    Titi i feel like this post is for me! I love it! Thanks for sharing and girl you look beyond amazing

  3. Seyi
    December 26, 2017 / 8:05 pm

    This post is for me ….Happy Birthday 🎂 again lots of love

  4. Seyi
    December 26, 2017 / 8:06 pm

    You look absolutely Stunning as usual … the Glow today is Everything ♥️

  5. Toke Adeyemo
    December 26, 2017 / 9:57 pm

    Great read! Lots of valuable life concepts in this post

  6. Jummy
    December 27, 2017 / 2:11 am

    Hey Titi!I appreciate your vulnerability here and speaking on the various experiences many of us in our mid 30’s going to 40 have to face.
    You are such an inspiration and i’m looking forward to cheering you on as you explore greater opportunities.
    Happy birthday dear!

  7. Toyin
    December 27, 2017 / 4:15 am

    I really enjoyed this post! Happiest of Birthdays

  8. Ijeoma
    December 27, 2017 / 1:33 pm

    I love the transparency & I can totally relate to alot of your lessons cheers to more growth in 2018 🥂

  9. December 28, 2017 / 12:15 am

    Wonderful post. God will always lead you down the right path. Happy birthday love.

  10. December 28, 2017 / 7:23 am

    You look absolutely gorgeous 😍 You are slaying Sophia webster’s butterfly heels❤ *
    And Happiest Birthday may all your wishes come true. Loved your words and it the time to embrace the changes.❤

    Happy holiday beautiful 😍
    Sara.B
    http://www.social-bouquet.com
    XoX😘

  11. Osariemen
    December 28, 2017 / 4:25 pm

    Thanks a lot Titi for sharing this post, I just stumbled on this post and I loved every bit of it , the wrap up statement at the end really relates to me and seeing how far you’ve come really inspires me, thank you .

  12. Yewande
    January 1, 2018 / 9:26 am

    Finally caught up on the blog. Love this blog post and several of these points resonate with me . Very well done my dear, wishing you major success in 2018..

  13. Ann
    January 1, 2018 / 3:15 pm

    What an awesome way to end the year and so bold to share! Thank you so much for this post! Can you tell it resonated with a lot of us! Hahaha! 2018 will be your best year yet! Keep shining sista! One love.

  14. January 1, 2018 / 4:49 pm

    Thank you for being so honest and vulnerable. Here’s to an even better 2018! Love your work!

  15. Shavoi Kent
    January 26, 2018 / 8:20 am

    Im a Capricorn. I turned 27 this year and this post is so my 2017.

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